Recently, I’ve stumbled upon a few posts by some women I admire that were inspired by this post of Jess at Makeunder My Life. The gist of the post was that there is a lack of transparency in the blogging community at times. It’s easy to look around and to be bombarded by photos of perfect homes and adorable babies, to read about relationships that seem idyllic and jobs that are fulfilling. Personally, I struggle most when I see people lose a ton of weight seemingly quickly, or do incredible fitness-related things with what seems like little effort.
I think that it’s easy to forget that when we read someone’s blog, it’s not the entire story of who they are, or what their life is like. In my own life, there are a ton of big things (my job!) and small things (day-to-day frustrations) that I simply choose not to discuss. I tend to paint a genuine picture of my life, but with some major exclusions. While nothing I share here is disingenuous, I find that people are often surprised—both with me and other bloggers—to find out that what we write online is not the full story of our lives. I like to read blogs because they feel a little bit like peeking into people’s windows and seeing their lives. But when I’m not careful, it’s easy to grow jealous of compare my home/life/relationship/clothing/choices to those of other bloggers. It’s so easy to be distracted by the beauty in the lives of others that we fail to see where it exists in ours. Worse, it can make us feel as if we don’t measure up to what others have going on.
I know that I struggle with finding a balance of positive and honest: I don’t want to write about every little thing that goes wrong in my life, but I also try and present a real picture of my life. What I loved about the posts I linked to above is that there were so many things I found myself nodding along to—things that felt familiar and real and normal. It made me feel so much better.
Inspired by these brave ladies, I’m going to follow Ez from Creature Comforts call to action, and share with you a few things I’m afraid to tell you:
- I struggle a lot with negativity. As in, I can be really, really, really negative. I try my best to be positive, but there are days and situations where I get bogged down, and stuck in patterns of thought that aren’t good at all. I’m working on it. It can be a real struggle for me to see the good things in certain areas of my life sometimes.
- I swear. A lot. I think this always surprises blog friends who meet me for the first time.
- I am a jealous person. I like to be liked, and I have a hard time not being the “favorite.” I also get crazy jealous when I see other people do well.
- I like a clean house, but I can definitely be messy. I hate doing laundry, and I rarely do it.
- I have tremendous anxiety about what is next for me. I have applied to grad school for the fall, but I’m not sure if I want to go. I don’t know what’s next career-wise. I am not sure when I’m going to be 100% ready for kids. I like to have plans and goals and sureness and I really have none of that. It makes me worry.
Phew. That was both liberating and very, very scary.
Now, your turn! Either in the comments or on your own blog, I’d love to know about some things you’re afraid to tell the Internet.