I’ve seen this type of post floating all over the Internet, so I thought I would chime in and share the Best Decisions Of My Adult Life. Most only have five…I couldn’t pick, so here are my Top 10.
1. Getting a divorce. If you’re new here, I got married really young to someone that wasn’t a good match for me (there’s a lot to the story, and while I’ve written about it, I choose not to share a ton of details) and we split when I was 22. While it was the absolute hardest time of my life, and something I wouldn’t wish on ANYONE, ever, it was also the decision that gave me the freedom to have the sort of life I wanted. I know that I wouldn’t have gotten healthy or been happy had I stayed, and leaving gave me my life back.
2. Becoming a teacher. Being a teacher is the most fulfilling thing I’ve ever done. There is something special about this profession, for me. When I became a teacher at 24, I was in a really weird, sad place in my life. Being a teacher takes you out of your own head, gives you a purpose and teaches you so much. I love it, and I feel so thankful to have a career I like so much.
3. Maintaining a close relationship with my family. I see a lot of friends lose their close relationship with their parents and extended family as they get older. I’ve always had a great relationship with my parents, but in my opinion, it gets better the older I get. My parents are still the people I want advice from no matter what the issue, and family dinner is usually the highlight of my week. I feel extraordinarily blessed.
4. Choosing to work on Andrew and I’s relationship instead of ending it. This is a BIG one. As I shared before, Andrew and I went through a really rough patch about two years ago. There were a few points when I thought the best thing to do would be to end our relationship completely. Instead, we decided to work hard on our relationship, and as a result, we’ve blossomed from a dating relationship that was just okay, to the most intimate, healthy, close relationship I’ve ever had. There is mutual support and respect, and of course, a lot of love. I get really sad when I think that I nearly missed out on this.
5. Adopting Harry cat. I can’t really even talk about how much I love my cat without getting teary. Harry and I have been through a lot together — he’s been the only real constant thing in my life since I was 22. Harry loves me unconditionally, and I love him more than anything, ever. Before him, I had no idea how much a pet can change your life, but now, I know.
6. Starting a blog. This blog has brought me over half of my closest friends, amazing opportunities, and most importantly, endless joy. This is the best hobby I’ve ever picked up and I am so glad I decided to start writing and putting it out on the Internet.
7. Therapy. Seven years of talking about my feelings, learning how to like myself, overcoming some serious sadness and dealing with life. I think therapy would benefit everyone. Truly. There is something incredible about having someone just listen to you, with no agenda other than to listen and help you figure out your “stuff.” Therapy gave me the tools to save my own life.
8. Living alone. To me, living alone should be an Adulthood Pre-requisite. I loved living alone. It was where I figured out how to take care of myself and how to handle business. I got to decorate a space how I wanted, be as messy/clean as I wanted, come and go as I please and figure out who I was. My apartment might have been a tiny studio in a sketchy neighborhood, but I loved it.
9. Going to Paris. For me, Paris symbolized so much more than just a trip to a cool place. It was making a dream come true for myself, one that I wasn’t sure I would ever accomplish. It made me want to replicate that feeling over and over again, and since that trip, I’ve actively worked to make more of my own dreams happen. Also? Pain au chocolat. The end.
10. Learning how to care for myself — a work in progress. In my early 20′s, I spent a lot of time waiting for other people to make me happy, and expecting others to try and make me happy. The older I get, the more I realize that I need to be the one writing the manual for The Care And Feeding Of A Happy Amy. I’ve learned how to deal with bad days, when to ask for help and how to make myself feel good.
Now you! Leave your best decisions in the comments or write your own post and let me know about it!
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